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Learning How to Tell Your Survivor Story, with Rachel Grant

Your survivor story, the way you live it every day, and the way you tell it to others, evolves throughout the various stages of healing. Each version is your truth, as you experienced it in the past and how you live in the present. Each stage of healing represents how you’ve grown and how much you learn about yourself; and so naturally the details, the way you live each day, and the way you tell it, changes and evolves with you.

Does this mean that we are lying, or that previous versions of our story are no longer valid? Of course not. Your story is always valid because it’s your story, as you lived it, and nobody has the right to second guess your experiences.  The way you tell your story depends greatly on where you are in life.

If you’re in the stage of denial, trying to just put it behind you and move on without dealing with it, that version will be very different than when you’re in deep healing work with a therapist, uncovering the memories and learning how they’ve affected you for so long. Conversely, that version of the story is different from when you’ve exited therapy, and are now moving forward with knowledge of what happened, new awareness and a new set of skills and tools at the ready whenever you need them.

How much you share, when you share, and to whom you share it with is always up to you. I can remember years ago working with a therapist, going twice a week for sessions, I was living, eating, and breathing being a survivor. I was reading book after book, watching videos, reading blog posts, writing my experiences on the blog and in journals, attending support groups, I was all in. During that time my version was very deep, dark, scary, and filled with details as I was reliving them during therapy. I outlined my struggles, my fears, my worries for the future as well as my anger for what was stolen from me.

Now, my version is much more succinct and to the point, because I’m not living in the same space I was during those deep healing times. I don’t need to share the details as much or have my story validated as much as I did before. It’s still my truth, yes, and will always be my truth, but it’s not my only truth now, and that’s the result of putting in the hard work of healing. My story has changed as I have changed.

On this episode of the podcast, we’re talking about this very thing; learning how to tell your survivor story, as well as forming relationships with others after your trauma. Rachel Grant, Sexual Abuse Survivor Coach, is a regular on Beyond Your Past Radio, and I’m honored to have her join me via a chat we had recently.

Rachel Grant is a Sexual Abuse Survivor Coach, with an M.A. in Counseling Psychology. Her website, RachelGrantCoaching.com features not only her individual and group work with survivors, but also her book “Beyond Surviving”, Facebook Group, Master Class, and free and low-cost Audible Downloads covering topics such as Shame, Boundaries, Abandonment, and much more.

It’s always a privilege to talk with Rachel on the show; her message of healing is always encouraging and filled with hope for how we can move forward from the trauma and abuse, and be more than a survivor. We can Thrive!

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Podcast – Ep. 75 – Rachel Grant, Survivor Struggles and Mentally Ill Labels

Living in today’s volatile and controversial world can take its toll on anyone. With so much violence happening around the world, discord among not only world leaders across the globe but certainly in the US, and the phrase “mentally ill” being tossed around in context to some of the most heinous crimes in recent history, and it’s no wonder we can feel unsettled.

For survivors, it’s tough enough navigating daily life in the wake of a traumatic past, but add in all of the pressures of being bombarded with news and current events 24/7, and the struggle gets exponentially more difficult.

I too struggle with my own thoughts and even my most trusted coping strategies are taxed to their limits at times trying to stay grounded while “fighting the good fight” as it were, to raise awareness and get involved in areas that I’m passionate about. It feels like an uphill battle that gets steeper and steeper, even with the best plan and self-care strategies in place.

Rachel Grant - Sexual Abuse Survivor Coach, Podcast GuestThat’s why I wanted to spend some time chatting with friend, colleague, and returning guest to the podcast, Rachel Grant. From the very first time that we collaborated back in the earlier episodes of the show, we’ve developed a friendship and mutual respect for each other not only as advocates and survivors, but as everyday people just trying to find our way in this world and make a difference while we continue to heal.

Rachel Grant is a Sexual Abuse Survivor Coach, with an M.A. in Counseling Psychology. Her website, RachelGrantCoaching.com features not only her individual and group work with survivors, but also her book “Beyond Surviving”, Facebook Group, Master Class, and free and low-cost Audible Downloads covering topics such as Shame, Boundaries, Abandonment, and much more.

 

Some of the topics that Rachel and I discuss on this episode include:

 

  • Feelings of Shame and Triggers that can arise in regards to the mass violence and political climate across the world.
  • “Mentally Ill” labels being tossed around in negative and stigmatizing ways in regards to school and church shootings, gun control, world leaders, and those who suffer with depression.
  • Getting involved in causes that we believe in, and trying to do too much.
  • Looking at labels in a different context, as a way to help feel inspired and educated, and provide direction towards treatment and resources.
  • Learning to pause, think before we speak and react, when it comes to highly charged situations, reducing anxiety, and in everyday life.
  • Using “service” to help get out of our heads, reduce burnout, and re-energize for not only our own journey but our involvement in causes we are passionate in.

Thank you again Rachel from coming back on the podcast and sharing your insight and heartfelt message for survivors. I’ve learned so much from you and I look forward to our collaborative work in the future.

Be sure and check out RachelGrantCoaching.com and follow her on Twitter: @CoachRachelG.

-Matthew Pappas, CLC, CPNLP

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

All conversation and information exchanged during participation on the Beyond Your Past Podcast, on BeyondYourPast.com, and BeyondYourPastRadio.com is intended for educational and informational purposes only. Nothing on these podcasts or posted on the above mentioned websites are supplements for or supersedes the relationship and direction of your medical or mental health providers.

 

 

Podcast – Ep. 47 – Understanding Flashbacks, Podcast with Rachel Grant

Welcome back to Surviving My Podcast! I’m please to introduce a returning guest and my good friend, Rachel Grant. Rachel is a Sexual Abuse Recovery Coach, and has an MA in Counseling Psychology. Her extensive research on how the brain is affected by trauma has been life changing for her clients and everyone who has read her book, Beyond Surviving, the Final Stage of Recovery from Sexual Abuse.

In this podcast we discuss the topic of Flashbacks. We learn about what they are, and how our brain reacts during a flashback. We discuss the importance of understanding why they happen and we share ways that you can effectively decrease not only their intensity, but their frequency.

So grab those headphones or plug us in to your car and join us for a time of sharing, validation, and healing. Don’t forget to head over to RachelGrantCoaching.com to find out more about Rachel, her program – Beyond Surviving, and all of the amazing resources she has available.

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Podcast – Ep. 32 – Developing healthy boundaries for children and adults – with Rachel Grant

In this podcast I’m joined by returning guest, author, and sexual abuse survivor coach, Rachel Grant. www.RachelGrantCoaching.com

In support of child abuse prevention month, we discuss developing and enforcing healthy boundaries for children and youth. We also discuss how our self-agency is damaged as a result of abuse but there is always hope and healing to embrace.

We also the pressures that today’s youth feel from not only peers but also from social media and how boundaries are important in the digital world as well.

I hope this episode resonates with you, and if you would be so kind as to share it with someone who might need it too, that would be amazing. We are all survivors together, navigating this healing journey.

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Podcast – Ep. 25 – Rachel Grant – How Trauma Affects The Brain – Mental Health Podcast

I’m joined by a very special guest, Rachel Grant. Rachel is a Coach who has an MA in Counseling Psychology, and she works with sexual abuse survivors to aid them in their recovery.

In this podcast we talk about how trauma affects our brain. We discuss the Amygdala, Retraining the Mind, Immediate and Long term affects of Trauma, and most importantly, how to heal and realize that there is hope!

I hope this episode resonates with you, and if you would be so kind as to share it with someone who might need it too, that would be amazing. We are all survivors together, navigating this healing journey.

Be sure and check out www.SurvivingMyPast.net – and follow me on social media.

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Podcast – Ep. 49 – Julie Coons – Author of This Does Not Leave This House

Today I’m joined by special guest and author, Julie Coons. Julie wrote the book, This does not leave this house. A story about growing up with an abusive mother, surviving sexual assault, and escaping an abusive relationship.

Julie is here with me today to talk about her book and share some of her experiences as a survivor, in hopes of reaching as many as possible with her story, to help inspire hope and validate all who have endured similar struggles.

We cover topics including:

1. Why she decided to write her book and where the inspiration for the title came from.
2. The different types of abuse that she endured throughout her life.
3. New realizations of her mother and how that relates to narcissistic abuse.
4. Her future plans for not only her current book but future books and speaking engagements.

Julie’s story is one of not only a traumatic past, but also a story of a resilient survivor who refused to stay silent.

Be sure and follow her on Twitter: @JulieCoons1 and stay tuned to her social media for information on the publish date of her book and future projects.

So grab those headphones or plug us in to your car and join us for a time of sharing, validation, and healing. Don’t forget to head over to RachelGrantCoaching.com to find out more about Rachel, her program – Beyond Surviving, and all of the amazing resources she has available.

Be sure and stay tuned to SurvivingMyPast.net for weekly blog posts, more podcasts, and my future coaching work!

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