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A Diagnosis She Would Not Accept, and a Holistic Approach to Healing that Changed Her Life.

When you get a diagnosis that you cannot accept, especially one that is life-altering at a very young age, you have two choices: accept it or get a second opinion. Or third, or fourth, or fifth. Essentially you have to decide if you’re going to fight or go quietly into the night…so to speak.

kimberle taitano - podcast - beyond your past radioOur guest on this episode of the podcast, Kimberle Taitano, has seen her share of challenges in life, physically, mentally, and emotionally. She joins us to talk about her experiences and how all of the challenges she’s faced, brought her to a place of being able to work with others to help them heal and keep fighting for themselves…to never give up, regardless of a diagnosis or a traumatic past.

Kimberle is an Integrative Wellness and Life Coach, Survivor, and Speaker: As survivors of sexual abuse trauma, we seek a way to find and achieve healing from the past. Here at Surrender 2 Wellness our unique perspective and life experience with the impact sexual abuse leaves in a survivor’s life is key to our coaching approach. Low self-esteem, self-worth, and lack of a positive self-image and self-love affect every area of your life.

After an eight-year journey to find alternative healing modalities, Kimberle a sexual abuse survivor discovered new Fields of study. Studying with Deepak Chopra; David Simon; and Davidji learning the principle steps needed to obtain overall healing and closure. Kimberle has integrated these teachings and personal experiences with other holistic healing modalities. Resulting in a unique trauma recovery-focused process.

During our chat with Kimberle, we talk about the diagnosis that brought her to a crossroads in her life, and already being a place of dealing with a traumatic past.

  • She shares how the abuse began at 4 years old when she was sexually abused by her father, and experienced bullying and physical abuse at the hands of her stepfather. In addition, she also endured being molested by her stepsister.
  •  She talks about her attempts to take her own life, which started at age 8, and her last attempt at age 38. In addition, we discuss the reasons why she tried so often to take her life; and it wasn’t because she wanted to die…she just wanted the pain to stop.
  • You’ll learn of the events that lead her to return to California after spending time in New York working on her acting career, and the diagnosis of MS that brought her to a crossroads, and a decision of either accepting that diagnosis or fighting for herself and finding alternative methods of healing.
  • We talk about the holistic approach to healing that changed her life, which includes reiki, meditation, massage, yoga, supplements, acupuncture, nutrition, and more. You’ll hear of the incredible healing that happened as a result of working with holistic doctors, using alternative medicine, that had her back on feet in a matter of months, and how she uses that same approach with her clients today.
  • We talk about her research with ACES (Adverse Childhood Experiences), and the connection of childhood trauma to chronic illness and disease.

If you’d like to learn more about Kimberle’s story, or if you’re interested in potentially working with her as your coach, head over to Surrender2Wellness.com, and check out her coaching practice and more of her survivor story. Be sure and also follow her on social media:

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“Feel to Heal”, Finding Balance in Healing and Life through Integrative Wellness, with Delisa Richardson

‘Life is all about balance”, something most of us have probably heard many times growing up and even more so today. Trying to balance all of the responsibilities that daily life throws at us, professionally, personally, relationally, spiritually, is tough, to say the least. For those that do that have kind of balance now, you have my utmost respect, and hopefully, you’re going to write a book one day about how you do it.

For the rest of us, that balance can be elusive, something that we strive for and sometimes feel like we have a grasp of, while the rest of the time it’s all we can do to figure out 1 or 2 at time, let alone trying to put all 4 together in some type of cohesive union of peace.

Our guest today on the podcast, Delisa Richardson, has dedicated her life to finding the balance of living with chronic illness, recovery from being a survivor, being a mom and wife, and working with clients in her coaching business. As she outlines in her bio:

Delisa Richardson Wellness focuses on empowering women to break the chains of trauma and abuse. I work with you to develop Mental, Emotional, Physical and Spiritual balance & wholeness. This will enable you to thrive and live your BEST life! My goal as a certified Integrative Wellness & Life Coach, NLP, EFT practitioner, and Hypnotherapist, is to help break the chains of trauma, end destructive relationships, help you to learn to love yourself not only survive but THRIVE! You will learn how to fully and confidently step into your life purpose.

Delisa is also a fitness profession of 21 years, and living with chronic illness (inflammatory bowel disease), she specializes in helping those with chronic pain and diseases develop a plan of movement and exercise that works for them. 

During our chat, Delisa and I talk about some of her survivor story, which started around the 9 and lasted until she was 13. She shares how and why she kept her abuse a secret and how it affected her all throughout her teenage years and into early adulthood, especially in the area of relationships.

  • You’ll learn the circumstances that transpired which lead her to seek the help of a therapist, what it was like to verbalize for the first time, out loud, that she was a survivor of abuse.
  • Delisa talks about the struggles of being in abusive relationships, both physically and verbally, as a result of childhood trauma, and how the events of her past affected her ability to seek out healthy relationships and enforce boundaries.
  • We discuss the importance of releasing the shame and guilt that comes with being a survivor of childhood trauma, and how recording her own voice, by listening to how she talked to herself; internalizing all of the shame and blame, helped her move forward and break that cycle.
  • Her life with inflammatory bowel disease, and how living with chronic pain and illness can be traced back to the childhood trauma she experienced.
  • We discuss how healing from trauma is a life long battle and the hope that comes from putting in the hard work of healing so you can live the life you want and be the person you want to be.
  • Releasing yourself from the need to try and control the people around you or the events in your life, and how the process of healing helps you release that need and realize that you actually have very little control over most of your life.

You can find Delisa on Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter just search for “Delisa Richardson Wellness”

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The Hope in Healing from CPTSD, with Monique Koven

If there’s one thing you need to be able to latch on to, and believe in when you begin a healing journey from past trauma..is Hope. The hope in healing from CPTSD or PTSD caused by childhood trauma is real, but if we don’t believe it’s real, the healing becomes exponentially more difficult.

After all, the reason you start working with a trauma-informed coach or therapist is that you are tired of living life the way you’ve been for so long. Years, decades, pass by and that lingering feeling of just knowing something isn’t right and you’re sick and tired of feeling sick and tired finally causes you to come to a point where you say, enough is enough. You seek out the help of a professional because you want to make changes in your life, to feel better, to release the shame and guilt from the past, to make peace with yourself or others, and any number of other areas that have caused you to struggle.

Even with all of that realization and awareness, the thought of actually latching onto this idea of Hope can still be difficult. You’ve suffered for so long that it’s become your status quo and you feel like nothing is ever going to change; that hope is just a fleeting feeling, something you’ll never be able to believe in.

Trust me, I know..I was there, sitting in a therapists office for years saying all of those things and just barely hanging onto the hope that things will get better. As long as I had that little glimmer of hope, even if I didn’t fully believe it at times, I knew I had to keep going. Little by little, that hope grew and I began to see changes that made me realize the hard work was paying off.

Monique Koven Coaching - Podcast - Beyond Your Past Radio - Healing from CPTSDThat’s what healing from trauma is all about, putting in the hard work and believing that it will pay off because you are worth feeling better; you are worth the effort to break free from the chains of your past.

So what does that hope actually look like, what does it feel like? Well, I’m glad you asked because our guest on this episode of the podcast is Monique Koven, Trauma-Informed Recovery & Resilience Coach.

I have worked for over 25 years as a social worker where I worked with older adults, many of whom were Holocaust survivors. As a survivor of ongoing, repetitive childhood trauma, I know what it’s like to believe that things will never change. I was diagnosed with generalized anxiety disorder and chronic PTSD. I was always trying to find the right therapy to provide some relief and finally “fix” me. Over the years, I tried well over 15 therapeutic modalities, but nothing ever helped. I lived with chronic anxiety, fear, and distressing daily PTSD symptoms such as flashbacks, disassociation, and triggering. Waking up with feelings of dread at the thought of a new day and then living it in constant anxiety. Every. Single. Day. I was told that trauma and anxiety were going to be with me for the long haul and that I would have to learn coping strategies to manage my symptoms. I believed it. Until… everything changed.

I have found complete freedom and am living my life fully without anything holding me back. I drive wherever I want, I take risks and step into things I never dreamed possible, and I feel at ease in my own body and mind. No more waking up in dread at the thought of another day. And the best part was that I didn’t need any tools or techniques.

I can help you step back into your innate power and peace of mind. There is hope. Change is possible.

During our chat with Monique, we talk about:

  • Monique shares some of her past and the struggles she felt growing up in an abusive home.
    • How she managed to try and feel safe in an environment full of chaos and violence.
  • As she grew up, the challenges of seemingly having a perfect life but feeling pulled back into her past.
  • Is it actually possible to fully heal from CPTSD and PTSD; and if so, what does that look like?
  • Finding balance during your healing and what it means to go to both ends of the spectrum during healing work.
  • Why is it important to have someone witness and validate your story.

If you’re interested in learning more about Monique’s coaching programs, be sure and check out MoniqueKovenCoaching.comFacebook & Instagram.

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From Victim to Survivor to Warrior, with Lisa Cybaniak – Ep. 136

Back when I first started on my own healing journey, I quickly became familiar with the term, “survivor”. Although I had never heard of it before (other than being a TV show), from the moment I heard what it was, it resonated with me big time. I felt like I had the biggest light bulb moment ever; I mean we’re talking like, the biggest light show ever suddenly coming to life in my head.

Everything made sense, I was a survivor. All of the struggles in school with learning disabilities, being bullied, problems with food, self-esteem, it all made sense. The more I learned, the more the puzzle pieces continued to find their way into this picture that was my life. Isn’t it interesting how, when you’re talking about being a survivor, you often reference puzzles and light bulbs?  Anyways…

Lisa Cybaniak Podcast - Beyond Your Past - From Victim to SurvivorOur guest on this episode of the podcast has dedicated her life to helping women in particular, and survivors as a whole, to find their voice. To begin to realize that they too have the ability to reach out for help, work through their past moving from victim to survivor, and ultimately from survivor to warrior.

Lisa Cybaniak is a Motivational Speaker, Success Coach, NLP Practitioner, and survivor of 10 years of child abuse. Over the last 3 years, her work has been featured on radio programs, podcasts, in magazines, and other media outlets. Her first book, Survivor to Warrior is due out in June of 2019.  She outlines on her website, I’ve developed three healing streams to empower you to build a life of purpose after abuse, wherever you may be on your path to recovery: Reaching Out, Victim to Survivor, and Survivor to Warrior.

If you’ve not had an abusive background, but still suffer from low self-esteem or confidence, impostor syndrome or a lack of fulfillment in your life, you will find many options here for you too. Remember, if you keep doing the same thing, you can expect the same result. If you’re ready for a different result, then you’re in the right place!

During our chat with Lisa, Joanne and I talk with her about her survivor journey and her work with clients:

  • Lisa shares about the multiple types of abuse she suffered at the hands of her stepfather, and how she found the courage to tell someone what was happening.
  • The incredible story of how her mother came to her rescue, validating everything Lisa said was happening and immediately made plans to get her away from the abuse.
  • The challenges of relationships and being able to tell her story to others; only a handful of people knew what happened during her teenage and young adult years.
  • We discuss the importance of not tying the validity of your abuse, and survivor story, to the outcome of a court case when filing charges against your abuser.
  • The struggles of using detachment as a coping skill, and how that lead to suicidal thoughts and closing off from nearly everyone in her life.
  • How she is using her life experiences now to work with clients, speak internationally, and continue her own ongoing journey of healing.

If you’d like to learn more about working with Lisa, her programs, upcoming new book, and her speaking engagements, just head over to LifeLikeYouMeanIt.com…and be sure and tell her, “Beyond Your Past, sent you”.  😉

You can follow her on Twitter: @LisaCybaniak , Facebook.com/lifelikeyoumeanit, and Instagram: @Life_Like_You_Mean_It

-Matthew Pappas, CLC, MPNLP & Joanne Cipressi, CHt, CNLP

 

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Introduction & Chat with new Podcast Co-host, Joanne Cipressi, Coach & Survivor – Ep. 119

Ever since I started this podcast, it’s been quite an interesting and exciting journey, to say the least. From the very first episode where I sat in front of my laptop, talking about being a survivor and the struggles of daily life, to now interviewing coaches, clinicians, and advocates every week; sharing their work and stories. I enjoy each and every episode and consider it a true honor to be a part of your day as you listen to the podcast.

Podcasting has allowed me to take the process of sharing my story to a new level, and as much as it’s hopefully helped you as you listen to the episodes, it’s helped me grow in my own journey even more.  I’m also very grateful to my friends and colleagues at Mental Health News Radio Network, for the opportunity to be among a group of incredible advocates who aren’t afraid to talk about the difficult subjects encompassing Mental Health.

Now, the next phase of the Beyond Your Past Podcast is about to begin, with the introduction of my new co-host, Joanne Cipressi.

Joanne is a Certified Coach and Survivor, experienced in a variety of modalities and skills which have helped her in her own journey as well as her coaching business working with clients, both in personal and business coaching.

You might remember when Joanne joined me on episode 107, where she shared some of her survivor story and the importance of rebuilding trust in yourself and others. Ever since then, we’ve stayed in touch; supporting each other’s work in social media and brainstorming some collaborative ideas, which lead to her now joining me on the podcast.

Joanne Cipressi brings new insight and a new dynamic to the show, which I hope you’ll find encouraging, validating, and yes even fun, too! Because hey, let’s face it, as I’ve said many times before, there’s no shame in interjecting some well-timed humor into difficult topics to help us cope with the challenges of being a survivor and living with mental health challenges as a result of our past.

Her experience in the areas of Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP), Hypnosis, Reflexology, Reiki, Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT), Age Regression Therapy, Holistic Nutrition, will surely bring new insight to the conversations we have on this show both as host and co-host, and with the amazing guests who join us each week.

Joanne will begin joining me on the podcasts starting in mid-late February, and you can expect to begin hearing her each week starting with those episodes being released in early March.

Learn more about Joanne, including her survivor story and her work as a coach, by heading over to JoanneCipressi.com and be sure to follow her on Twitter

-Matthew Pappas, CLC, MPNLP

 

All conversation and information exchanged during participation on the Beyond Your Past Podcast, on BeyondYourPast.com, and BeyondYourPastRadio.com is intended for educational and informational purposes only. Nothing on these podcasts or posted on the above-mentioned websites are supplements for or supersedes the relationship and direction of your medical or mental health providers.