Codependency

Adverse Childhood Experiences and Living an Authentic Life, with Leslie Peters, RN – Ep. 133

Living an authentic life, something I think most of us can agree is important. When we are being true to ourselves, living life in a way that is congruent with our beliefs, values, morals, and yes “just feels right”, it shows in how we interact with the world and how we treat ourselves.

It’s not always easy though, and quite honestly can be especially difficult when your past involves abuse of any type, or other trauma’s that have affected you on a deep level. Understanding how those adverse childhood experiences play a role in all aspects of your growth and development is key to being able to understand what living authentically means for you.

It’s also important to understand that while those experiences do play a huge role in your life, there is hope in healing through neuroplasticity, awareness, education, and being in tune with yourself on a very deep level. By doing so, you can learn to process and overcome past trauma and other adverse experiences and live your life the way you want too, not the way you feel has been pre-determined by your past.

leslie peters rn - adverse childhood experiences and living life authentically - podcast on beyond your past radioOur guest on this episode of the podcast is Leslie Peters, RN. Leslie is a registered nurse, who left a career she loved, to step out of her comfort zone and start following her intuition and her heart, by sharing her story as a speaker, self-love strategist and accountability partner in self-care.

Leslie Peters is a woman who has spent a lifetime asking, listening and learning from others. The only person she never listened to was herself; she grew up, married and raised men with addictions. She trusted unhealthy people who loved her more than she trusted herself. Leslie says that this is actually the “Gift of her story”. She felt no connection to her parents or husband – being an intuitive she knew she needed to feel connected for her survival. When she was 16, with the freedom of a drivers license, Leslie went in search of connection.

She quickly learned that on the other side of the door of her home was a world where she could let her true self-free. The world became her home and the people walking down them her family. She routinely asked strangers thought-provoking questions about themselves; Leslie always found a way to relate. Their answers confirmed that she was not alone in her story and that she was indeed part of something bigger than her own small world – the greater good.

During our chat with Leslie, we cover areas including:

  • What is living life with H.E.A.R.T., and how she discovered this way of living is not always easy, but so important.
    • Leslie shares the struggles she experienced in trying to live this way, and how she’s been able to work through those challenges.
  • Releasing the shame and anger she was holding onto for allowing herself to becomes something she wasn’t, just to make others happy.
  • How the ACES Study, (Adverse Childhood Experiences) plays a key role in all aspects of development; physically, emotionally, and cognitively.
    • Understanding your ACES score and how it affects not only you but others in your life.
    • Leslie’s shares her score and what it’s meant to her personally and in working with clients to help them understand their score.
  • The healing that comes through neuroplasticity, awareness, education, and being in tune with yourself on a very deep level.

If you’re not familiar with ACES, we encourage you to google “aces score” or go to acestoohigh.com and other similar sites for more information on this groundbreaking study originally conducted by the CDC and Kaiser Permanente, and learn more about your aces score.

You can reach Leslie through email:  Info at LesliePetersRN dot com and on LinkedIn

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-Matthew Pappas, CLC, MPNLP & Joanne Cipressi, CHt, CNLP

 

All conversation and information exchanged during participation on the Beyond Your Past Podcast, on BeyondYourPast.com, and BeyondYourPastRadio.com is intended for educational and informational purposes only. Nothing on these podcasts or posted on the above-mentioned websites are supplements for or supersedes the relationship and direction of your medical or mental health providers.

 

Podcast – Ep. 96 – Love Addiction, Sex Addiction, and Co-Dependency, with Shena Tubbs, MMFT, LPC

Admitting out loud to yourself can be difficult enough, but admitting to another person can be downright scary, embarrassing, and shame inducing. When you come face to face with an addiction of any type, it means you’re taking the first step in a difficult recovery, but one that is absolutely possible. After all, without Hope, what’s the point of trying to heal, right?

shena tubbs - podcast - beyond your past - sex and love addiction and codependencyMy guest on this episode of the podcast is Shena Tubbs. Shena is a Licensed Professional Counselor, MMFT, LPC, CSAT-C based out of Texas, and is an expert in the areas of Love Addiction, Sex Addiction, Sex and Love Addiction, and Trauma Recovery.

As she outlines on her website, ShenaTubbs.com and listed on Psychology TodayI help women from around the globe who struggle with creating and living in fantasy relationships with unavailable partners, often losing their boundaries and self-esteem for the promise of “love.” Some people call it codependence. Some people call it sex and love addiction. Some call it intimacy disorders. …No matter the name, I am here to help.

Through our time together, you will be able to let go of desperation and feelings of low self-esteem, not be dependent on emotionally unavailable partnerships, and regain control of sexually compulsive behaviors by learning to love yourself first. Together, we may work on unresolved trauma and combat self soothing by overindulging in things over/under eating, shopping/debting, and overworking. Together, we help you break free of these patterns. I believe that you can have it all without losing yourself, and I want to help you get there.

Shena is also a host of her own podcast, Love Junkie, which I had the pleasure of being on not long ago. Shena graciously invited me to join her to discuss the connection between anxiety and trauma.  You can listen to that episode by clicking here. Thank you again Shena!

During our chat on this episode of Beyond Your Past, Shena shares her expertise in the areas of love addiction, sex addiction, sex and love addiction, and how unresolved trauma can affect these addictions and inhibit healing. Some of the specific areas we cover include:

  • Shena shares some of her story, which includes being the oldest of 3 sisters, being left in charge of many responsibilities in caring for her sisters,  and growing up experiencing emotional neglect.
  • As an adult, how going to a sex addiction meeting, after realizing she was crossing boundaries in her own life that she never thought she’d cross, changed her life, and over time  helped her pursue a career as a therapist.
  • The differences between sex addiction and love addiction, and what is “sex and love addiction”?
  • How codependency fits in with sex addiction and love addiction, and is every sex and love addiction person codependent?
  • What does recovery look like for someone struggling with sex and love addiction; what can you expect during the process?
  • How a connection to God and her faith played a role in her own recovery.

Shena’s expertise has proven to be invaluable to her clients and those who listen to her podcast. I’m grateful to have the opportunity to share her knowledge on Beyond Your Past, so definitely give the podcast a listen. Even if you do not personally struggle with sex addiction, love addiction, or codependency, you may someone who does and sharing this podcast with them may make a huge difference in their life.

Be sure and check out ShenaTubbs.com , the Love Junkie Podcast, and follow her on Twitter and Facebook.

-Matthew Pappas, CLC, MPNLP

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

All conversation and information exchanged during participation on the Beyond Your Past Podcast, on BeyondYourPast.com, and BeyondYourPastRadio.com is intended for educational and informational purposes only. Nothing on these podcasts or posted on the above mentioned websites are supplements for or supersedes the relationship and direction of your medical or mental health providers.