Discovering Your Life’s Purpose

Reframing Your Limiting Beliefs to Change Your Life, with Tiffany Toombs

“Change the way you look at things, and the things you look at, change.” – Wayne Dyer. That old saying literally popped into my head as I began to write the post and show notes for this episode of the podcast, and it applies perfectly to our chat with Tiffany Toombs and the topic of Reframing Your Limiting Beliefs.

Whether you are deeply involved in a healing journey from past trauma, struggling to find your way in your career, family life, relationships, or virtually anything else that is part of being a human being on this planet…reframing can be a powerful tool. By simply looking at how you presently view and interpret something in your life, and considering the possibility that there may be a different way of looking at it, you open up a whole new world of possibilities.

We get so stuck in the habits and mindsets we’ve built up over time, that we immediately often to go the negative rather than the positive. These negative beliefs can be the result of brainwashing from a toxic person in our past, any type of abuse, or simply by the company we keep on a daily basis. We are influenced, directly or indirectly, by not only our past but the company we keep on a daily basis, which is why it’s so important to surround ourselves with positive, encouraging, safe people.

So how exactly do we even figure out what this whole “reframing” thing is? How do you figure out who the safe people are and make changes to surround ourselves with them? How do we change all these negative core beliefs that we’ve been rooted in for so long, so we can build new pathways in our brain and develop a new outlook on who we are and what we’re capable of?

I’m glad you asked…our guest, Tiffany Toombs is here to help shed some light on this subject and address those struggles and more.

Tiffany is a Mindset Coach, and Master Practitioner of Matrix Therapies and NLP. She is the founder of blue lotus mind, a program she developed to help inspire men, women, and children to reconnect and love themselves, unconditionally, from the inside out. Her goal is to create a self-love revolution, where everyone feels empowered to redefine what happiness and love look and feel like, to them.

I have experienced first hand what it is like to feel stuck and lost in life. This experience allows me to coach from a deeply personal place, from a place of being broken wide open and diving in to sort out the pieces…and so I want to start a self-love revolution. I want everyone I come into contact with to feel empowered to re-define what happiness and love look and feel like for them. 

During our chat on the podcast we cover:

  • Self-Love; why do we resist it?
  • Why it’s so important to heal negative emotions & experiences from the past.
  • The importance of doing what’s best for us, even when others judge and call you selfish.
  • Understand that every behavior has a belief system, and focusing on the behavior alone won’t accomplish the goal of healing.
  • Learning not to settle in your career, relationships, or any aspect of life.
  • Taking time to connect with your highest intentions each day to help yourself continually grow and not regress back into old patterns you worked so hard to change.
  • Life is full of ebbs and flows, ups and downs, and not getting too attached to either.

We unpack all of this and more during our chat with Tiffany Toombs, so be sure and check out the podcast right here on the Beyond Your Past Radio, or search your favorite podcast app for “Beyond Your Past”.

Thank you to Tiffany for sharing her incredible insight and wisdom on the power of using Reframing to change your limiting beliefs.

You can learn more about Tiffany Toombs, including her coaching programs and online resources, over on – Be sure and follow her on social media as well:

Twitter: @TiffanyNToombs – Facebook: @BlueLotusMind – Instagram: @TiffanyToombs


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Adverse Childhood Experiences and Living an Authentic Life, with Leslie Peters, RN – Ep. 133

Living an authentic life, something I think most of us can agree is important. When we are being true to ourselves, living life in a way that is congruent with our beliefs, values, morals, and yes “just feels right”, it shows in how we interact with the world and how we treat ourselves.

It’s not always easy though, and quite honestly can be especially difficult when your past involves abuse of any type, or other trauma’s that have affected you on a deep level. Understanding how those adverse childhood experiences play a role in all aspects of your growth and development is key to being able to understand what living authentically means for you.

It’s also important to understand that while those experiences do play a huge role in your life, there is hope in healing through neuroplasticity, awareness, education, and being in tune with yourself on a very deep level. By doing so, you can learn to process and overcome past trauma and other adverse experiences and live your life the way you want too, not the way you feel has been pre-determined by your past.

leslie peters rn - adverse childhood experiences and living life authentically - podcast on beyond your past radioOur guest on this episode of the podcast is Leslie Peters, RN. Leslie is a registered nurse, who left a career she loved, to step out of her comfort zone and start following her intuition and her heart, by sharing her story as a speaker, self-love strategist and accountability partner in self-care.

Leslie Peters is a woman who has spent a lifetime asking, listening and learning from others. The only person she never listened to was herself; she grew up, married and raised men with addictions. She trusted unhealthy people who loved her more than she trusted herself. Leslie says that this is actually the “Gift of her story”. She felt no connection to her parents or husband – being an intuitive she knew she needed to feel connected for her survival. When she was 16, with the freedom of a drivers license, Leslie went in search of connection.

She quickly learned that on the other side of the door of her home was a world where she could let her true self-free. The world became her home and the people walking down them her family. She routinely asked strangers thought-provoking questions about themselves; Leslie always found a way to relate. Their answers confirmed that she was not alone in her story and that she was indeed part of something bigger than her own small world – the greater good.

During our chat with Leslie, we cover areas including:

  • What is living life with H.E.A.R.T., and how she discovered this way of living is not always easy, but so important.
    • Leslie shares the struggles she experienced in trying to live this way, and how she’s been able to work through those challenges.
  • Releasing the shame and anger she was holding onto for allowing herself to becomes something she wasn’t, just to make others happy.
  • How the ACES Study, (Adverse Childhood Experiences) plays a key role in all aspects of development; physically, emotionally, and cognitively.
    • Understanding your ACES score and how it affects not only you but others in your life.
    • Leslie’s shares her score and what it’s meant to her personally and in working with clients to help them understand their score.
  • The healing that comes through neuroplasticity, awareness, education, and being in tune with yourself on a very deep level.

If you’re not familiar with ACES, we encourage you to google “aces score” or go to and other similar sites for more information on this groundbreaking study originally conducted by the CDC and Kaiser Permanente, and learn more about your aces score.

You can reach Leslie through email:  Info at LesliePetersRN dot com and on LinkedIn

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-Matthew Pappas, CLC, MPNLP & Joanne Cipressi, CHt, CNLP


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4 Benefits of Working Through the Pain of Your Past – Ep. 125

So what’s the deal with the importance of working through a past full of trauma, pain, and events we’d probably rather just forget about? Is there a point to working through all of those memories and revisiting situations that we’ve buried in the bottom of our minds for years, perhaps decades?

The short answer, but not the most comfortable answer, is… absolutely.

This podcast focuses on inspiring you to break free from the chains of your past and move forward to experience the world of healing, possibilities, and opportunity that comes with working through past trauma. We wanted to spend some time with you today explaining why this is so important. There are many who feel like they don’t want to let the past go and others that believe they just can’t do it even if they did want too. Sometimes we find comfort in holding onto the past because its familiar or we believe that by holding and constantly reminding ourselves of the past pain, we can protect ourselves from future pain so we keep all those memories alive. We come up with countless reasons to justify we doing this is so important; things like “the past is a part of me”, “this is just who I am” and “I don’t know who I’d be if I let that go.”

We understand these statements and emotions because both of us, Matt and Joanne, have lived in that mindset for a long time. But, we also understand the amazing benefits of moving beyond that type of mindset — which is why we do this podcast – in hopes that people will find the encouragement and motivation to move beyond their past so they can reap the benefits of doing so.

It can be challenging to know the benefits of something if you have not experienced them yourself. So, today, we wanted to share with you some of those benefits that you can experience when you dedicate yourself to your own journey of healing. Remember, everyone heals in their own way and it doesn’t matter how long it takes you, all that matters is that consider the possibility of how much more fulfilling and enjoyable life can be when you make your healing a priority.

In addition to 4 primary benefits of healing, we also cover some of the reasons why it’s so difficult to even attempt to begin healing past trauma in the first place; including reasons why we focus on the past, why it’s hard to let go, and why we tend to focus on the negatives aspects of our life.

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Matthew Pappas, CLC, MPNLP & Joanne Cipressi, CHt, CNLP


Exploring Your Archetypes to Discover and Embrace Your Life’s Purpose, with Beth Martens – Ep. 108

Searching for our life’s purpose, it’s something that we can all strive for; merely not existing in this world and “going through the motions” but finding the true desire of our heart and where our passion is, and using it to help others. To not just wake up each day feeling like we are stuck with no hope of having a truly fulfilling and enriching life, but rather to live each day doing what we love and understanding that our purpose is unique to us.

Life purpose and helping others do not necessarily go hand in hand in everyone’s view, but as we’ll explore in this episode of the podcast, using your life’s purpose to help others can make each experience so much more meaningful and fulfilling.

beth martens - exploring your archetypes and embracing your life's purpose - podcast - beyond your pastBusiness, archetype and releasing coach for ‘Mermaids,’ singer with four recordings and mom to a bohemian son on the Canadian prairies, Beth Martens helps women ‘MerPreneurs’ be valued for their authentic life’s work. A ‘corporate cancer’ survivor, she now teaches women how to create and up level a divinely aligned business – so they can serve with the whole of themselves without spreading themselves too thin or burning out from over-giving. In addition to teaching the tools of high end business, she specializes in working with archetype and releasing coaching to help her clients navigate the emotional underworld, reclaim their lost energy and create abundance from love instead of fear.

Beth Martens is a 2 time cancer survivor, and has beaten the odds repeatedly throughout her life. Even when told she would not likely survive, she refused to give up on herself and her dreams of finding and embracing her life’s purpose.  “Over the 3 years of fighting for my life I lost everything – my house, my car, my ability to work, and several friends who couldn’t journey with me. I gave away my cats and all of the stuff I could no longer look after. I lost my hair, I looked like death itself and finally lost my hope to live. 

That day I fell into the pit of despair. Dusk was falling, the room blackening and I laid there for hours on end in my parents’ book room, feeling my life had come to the end. When I finally caved and surrendered to all of the loss, and to death itself, instead of dying I had the most surprising breakthrough.

I saw who I really am. I saw that with nothing, I was intimately connected with humanity through what I’m here to be and do. And I saw how utterly fulfilled I was in that, despite having lost everything. What finally turned the key for me was working with archetypes. In discovering the ‘Mer’ archetype that was out of alignment for me I recovered enough energy that I completely healed, and never had to look back.

After recovering from cancer and the treatments, it took me more than a decade to build my calling into a business that served me and the people I work for equally. Now I teach women to do that in six months.”

You are guided by your instincts about what is possible.

But when you look out in the world it doesn’t reflect the vision you see. You are wired to serve others in the ways you are naturally gifted, emotionally inclined and expertly trained, and your soul won’t let you rest until you do it.

During our chat on the podcast, we cover more about power of working with archetypes and your life’s purpose:

  • What exactly are archetypes and do we all have them?
  • How does working with our archetypes helping in healing from trauma, and overcome anxiety?
  • How we can be in control of our emotions in a healthy way, and why it’s so important.
  • More about exploring our life purpose:
    • What it means to explore your life purpose
    • Why it’s so important and why helping others makes it so much more fulfilling.

To learn more about working with Beth Martens, exploring archetypes and your life’s purpose, head over to where you can check out her resources, coaching programs which include business coaching, relationship coaching, and more!

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Twitter: BethMartens

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-Matthew Pappas, CLC, MPNLP


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All conversation and information exchanged during participation on the Beyond Your Past Podcast, on, and is intended for educational and informational purposes only. Nothing on these podcasts or posted on the above mentioned websites are supplements for or supersedes the relationship and direction of your medical or mental health providers.