Healing Unresolved Trauma

Living Your Best Life through Healing Your Past, with Karen Cesario Rizzo

When you come to a point in healing from your past, from all of the abuse, the trauma, the years of suffering, you may find yourself breaking down, falling to your knees, and crying out for help. That’s exactly what our guest on this episode of the podcast did, and the answers she received were life-changing.

Karen Cesario Rizzo is a spiritual coach and author: Having experienced tragedy and pain as a young child, I knew I felt different. But I always knew I was being protected by angels. I could hear them, feel them, speak to them and see them at an early age. After many years, I made the decision to lift the veil of pain and fear. It was a painful process I had to endure. As a result, I began experiencing increased psychic awareness beyond what I could comprehend. The journey has been amazing.

Admittedly, Joanne and I are not well versed into the world of being a clairvoyant and having psychic gifts, so this opportunity to chat with someone who has experienced this first hand and has found it to be a tremendous help in her own healing, was a wonderful opportunity.

During our chat with Karen, we talked about her unique survivor story and the journey of healing that lead her to be in a place of writing two books so far, and sharing her gifts and experiences with others through her coaching program:

  • How she endured sexual abuse at the age of 7, from her father who was also an alcoholic and later took his own life.
  • The breaking point that she came too that literally had her on her knees crying out for help and answers, and the life-changing results that came with that cry for help.
  • How she learned that she could talk to angels and the healing benefits she experienced as a result; as well as how she began to develop this gift.
  • The importance of peeling off each layer of pain, sitting with those feelings, and learning how to heal them through counseling and therapy.
    • What you learn about yourself throughout that process
  • Working through the shame, pain, and victimization that comes with being a survivor so you can learn to see yourself through the eyes of love.
  • How radical acceptance can play such an important role in healing from your past.

Be sure and follow Karen Cesario Rizzo on her website and on Twitter: @KCesarioRizzo  and Facebook: FlyingOnEaglesWings

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The Hope in Healing from CPTSD, with Monique Koven

If there’s one thing you need to be able to latch on to, and believe in when you begin a healing journey from past trauma..is Hope. The hope in healing from CPTSD or PTSD caused by childhood trauma is real, but if we don’t believe it’s real, the healing becomes exponentially more difficult.

After all, the reason you start working with a trauma-informed coach or therapist is that you are tired of living life the way you’ve been for so long. Years, decades, pass by and that lingering feeling of just knowing something isn’t right and you’re sick and tired of feeling sick and tired finally causes you to come to a point where you say, enough is enough. You seek out the help of a professional because you want to make changes in your life, to feel better, to release the shame and guilt from the past, to make peace with yourself or others, and any number of other areas that have caused you to struggle.

Even with all of that realization and awareness, the thought of actually latching onto this idea of Hope can still be difficult. You’ve suffered for so long that it’s become your status quo and you feel like nothing is ever going to change; that hope is just a fleeting feeling, something you’ll never be able to believe in.

Trust me, I know..I was there, sitting in a therapists office for years saying all of those things and just barely hanging onto the hope that things will get better. As long as I had that little glimmer of hope, even if I didn’t fully believe it at times, I knew I had to keep going. Little by little, that hope grew and I began to see changes that made me realize the hard work was paying off.

Monique Koven Coaching - Podcast - Beyond Your Past Radio - Healing from CPTSDThat’s what healing from trauma is all about, putting in the hard work and believing that it will pay off because you are worth feeling better; you are worth the effort to break free from the chains of your past.

So what does that hope actually look like, what does it feel like? Well, I’m glad you asked because our guest on this episode of the podcast is Monique Koven, Trauma-Informed Recovery & Resilience Coach.

I have worked for over 25 years as a social worker where I worked with older adults, many of whom were Holocaust survivors. As a survivor of ongoing, repetitive childhood trauma, I know what it’s like to believe that things will never change. I was diagnosed with generalized anxiety disorder and chronic PTSD. I was always trying to find the right therapy to provide some relief and finally “fix” me. Over the years, I tried well over 15 therapeutic modalities, but nothing ever helped. I lived with chronic anxiety, fear, and distressing daily PTSD symptoms such as flashbacks, disassociation, and triggering. Waking up with feelings of dread at the thought of a new day and then living it in constant anxiety. Every. Single. Day. I was told that trauma and anxiety were going to be with me for the long haul and that I would have to learn coping strategies to manage my symptoms. I believed it. Until… everything changed.

I have found complete freedom and am living my life fully without anything holding me back. I drive wherever I want, I take risks and step into things I never dreamed possible, and I feel at ease in my own body and mind. No more waking up in dread at the thought of another day. And the best part was that I didn’t need any tools or techniques.

I can help you step back into your innate power and peace of mind. There is hope. Change is possible.

During our chat with Monique, we talk about:

  • Monique shares some of her past and the struggles she felt growing up in an abusive home.
    • How she managed to try and feel safe in an environment full of chaos and violence.
  • As she grew up, the challenges of seemingly having a perfect life but feeling pulled back into her past.
  • Is it actually possible to fully heal from CPTSD and PTSD; and if so, what does that look like?
  • Finding balance during your healing and what it means to go to both ends of the spectrum during healing work.
  • Why is it important to have someone witness and validate your story.

If you’re interested in learning more about Monique’s coaching programs, be sure and check out MoniqueKovenCoaching.comFacebook & Instagram.

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Learning How to Tell Your Survivor Story, with Rachel Grant

Your survivor story, the way you live it every day, and the way you tell it to others, evolves throughout the various stages of healing. Each version is your truth, as you experienced it in the past and how you live in the present. Each stage of healing represents how you’ve grown and how much you learn about yourself; and so naturally the details, the way you live each day, and the way you tell it, changes and evolves with you.

Does this mean that we are lying, or that previous versions of our story are no longer valid? Of course not. Your story is always valid because it’s your story, as you lived it, and nobody has the right to second guess your experiences.  The way you tell your story depends greatly on where you are in life.

If you’re in the stage of denial, trying to just put it behind you and move on without dealing with it, that version will be very different than when you’re in deep healing work with a therapist, uncovering the memories and learning how they’ve affected you for so long. Conversely, that version of the story is different from when you’ve exited therapy, and are now moving forward with knowledge of what happened, new awareness and a new set of skills and tools at the ready whenever you need them.

How much you share, when you share, and to whom you share it with is always up to you. I can remember years ago working with a therapist, going twice a week for sessions, I was living, eating, and breathing being a survivor. I was reading book after book, watching videos, reading blog posts, writing my experiences on the blog and in journals, attending support groups, I was all in. During that time my version was very deep, dark, scary, and filled with details as I was reliving them during therapy. I outlined my struggles, my fears, my worries for the future as well as my anger for what was stolen from me.

Now, my version is much more succinct and to the point, because I’m not living in the same space I was during those deep healing times. I don’t need to share the details as much or have my story validated as much as I did before. It’s still my truth, yes, and will always be my truth, but it’s not my only truth now, and that’s the result of putting in the hard work of healing. My story has changed as I have changed.

On this episode of the podcast, we’re talking about this very thing; learning how to tell your survivor story, as well as forming relationships with others after your trauma. Rachel Grant, Sexual Abuse Survivor Coach, is a regular on Beyond Your Past Radio, and I’m honored to have her join me via a chat we had recently.

Rachel Grant is a Sexual Abuse Survivor Coach, with an M.A. in Counseling Psychology. Her website, RachelGrantCoaching.com features not only her individual and group work with survivors, but also her book “Beyond Surviving”, Facebook Group, Master Class, and free and low-cost Audible Downloads covering topics such as Shame, Boundaries, Abandonment, and much more.

It’s always a privilege to talk with Rachel on the show; her message of healing is always encouraging and filled with hope for how we can move forward from the trauma and abuse, and be more than a survivor. We can Thrive!

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The Journey of Self-Confidence and Discovering Your Self-Worth, with Amy Rushworth

Raise your hand if you’ve heard a quote similar to this: “life is about the journey, not the destination”. I believe the first person to coin that phrase was Ralph Waldo Emerson. You’ve probably heard it referenced in books and movies, from motivational speakers, professors, and countless others…but how much do you truly embrace it in your life, particularly in the area of self-confidence and self-worth?

The Journey of Self-Confidence and Discovering Your Self-WorthDuring my chat with Amy Rushworth on this episode of the podcast, we are talking about how self-confidence is born, developed, and honed throughout your life experiences. It’s those experiences that help you find your voice, which is discovered by developing your self-confidence; and your self-confidence is born out of everything you’ve been through in your past, and continues to develop as you live your life.

Amy Rushworth is the UK’s leading Confidence Coach & Transformational Mentor. She helps her clients and those who take her programs, to ignite their confidence, fire up their self-worth, and get their sparkle back.

I’m so passionate about what I do because I have experienced my own ‘confidence crisis’ and mental health rock bottom. Back then, I realized I could no longer fake my way through life anymore. I knew I needed to radically reinvent my confidence. Over the past 5 years, I’ve been on a journey of radical healing, reinventing my life and rebuilding my confidence. My struggles became my greatest gift because they led me to my soul’s calling and helping hundreds of other women to take back control of their lives.

Confidence influences everything from the relationships we call in, the money we manifest, the freedom we experience and the well-being of our mind, body, and soul. When you feel radiantly confident on the inside, your life will change dramatically on the outside. Through my unique confidence-building methodology, many of my clients have gone on to create their dream lives, and for that, I am truly grateful.

During our chat with Amy, you’ll hear how she came to a pivotal point in her life of realizing she needed more out of her life, than what she originally thought. She was checking off the boxes; a wonderful relationship, apartment on the beach, glamorous fashion career, and so on but there was something missing, and her body was beginning to show her this in ways she never expected.

Through some difficult medical circumstances, she was left with plenty of time to reflect, and knew it was time to make a change. She sought the help of a therapist and began evaluating her life and where she was headed; including her priorities. This healing work helped her find the confidence to move to England and start her own business.

Just when things were taking off, she began having flashbacks of childhood trauma and realized there was still more work to be done. She took those experiences, learned from them, and used them as even more motivation to develop her voice and confidence both personally and professionally.

She shares how being in a place of true acceptance and self-love, helps her be in tune with what her body and mind are telling her. We discuss how gratitude opens your heart and rewires your brain, and that rewiring is essential in developing confidence and self-worth. She shares helpful strategies for starting your own gratitude journal and making it a part of your life, every day.

We talk about the importance of getting to the root of limiting beliefs to help change the maladaptive coping skills that hold you back and keep you stuck. You can truly “learn how to unlearn low-confidence and low self-worth”, as Amy shares, which will help ignite your confidence and fire up your self-worth.

There’s so much more during our chat with Amy, so be sure and check out the podcast by scrolling up and clicking that play button, or on your favorite podcast app. You can learn more about Amy’s programs at AmyRushworth.com, and follow her on Instagram, and Facebook.

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Releasing Shame and Recovering Repressed Memories through Writing, with Elisabeth Corey – Ep. 132

elisabeth corey - uncovering repressed memories through writing - podcast on beyond your pastOne of the most helpful strategies you can utilize in your healing journey is writing. Whether it’s journaling, keeping a diary, blogging, writing letters that you’ll never send, or other writing methods, the benefits can yield incredibly validating and groundbreaking results.

Writing is also one of the more difficult things to do for many survivors, for many reasons, not the least of which is that it forces you to go back and explore thoughts and memories that you’ve may have spent decades trying to forget or at the very list simply ignoring because they happened so long ago. For some it’s a struggle because writing just isn’t your thing, or you simply don’t enjoy it, you’re not a storyteller, or your perfectionism simply won’t allow you to write anything and deem it acceptable.

Elisabeth Corey, MSW, and founder of BeatingTrauma.com joins me on the podcast as a return guest to discuss this incredibly beneficial modality of healing. I first had the opportunity to chat with Elisabeth back in episode 38 as we discussed working with our inner parts to help heal trauma. Inner Parts work is a specialty of Elisabeth and continues to be a focus in her work with private clients and in her group sessions, webinars, and other resources created for survivors.

During my chat with Elisabeth Corey on this episode of the podcast, we’re diving more into recovering repressed memories through writing:

  • How writing from our inner parts can help us connect with what we don’t remember.
  • What exactly are repressed memories, why are they so crucial to healing, and what misconceptions are there surrounding these types of memories?
  • How the idea that writing doesn’t come naturally for so many but why it’s so important.
    • On that topic, the type of writing that Elisabeth teaches her clients and those in her programs is not supposed to come naturally because of you’re diving into areas of your life that you’ve spent years trying to forget. In addition, the coping skills that served us during traumatic events can be a cause of keeping certain memories repressed.
  • How naturally, or not, do our inner parts take to writing and being given a voice?
    • Which parts are more resistant vs which parts are more open to having a voice?
  • Connecting with your inner child and writing from a place of your inner child’s voice and perspective, as opposed to an adults version of their voice.
  • Flashbacks, and how they are not always the overwhelming memories that cause so much turmoil and turn our world upside down.
    • The importance of using these as a learning experience in writing to help uncover repressed memories.

This was such an incredible chat with Elisabeth and she dives more in depth to those topics and shares her vast knowledge in a way that is validating and inspiring. I hope you’ll consider checking out this episode and sharing it with someone who might find it helpful.

Be sure and follow Elisabeth Corey, MSW on Twitter @BeatingTrauma and her website, BeatingTrauma.com, where you can also learn about her programs, webinars, and workshops.

-Matthew Pappas, CLC, MPNLP

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Healing Unresolved Trauma, Through Mind, Body, and Spirit – Ep. 102

When you come to a breaking point in your life, continuously being beaten down time after time, struggle after struggle, never seeming to gain your footing for any length of time, one of the things you might find yourself doing is praying for help and for wisdom. You reach out for help to God, the great spirit, the universe, or the higher power you connect with.

Healing from physical wounds is one thing, but healing emotional wounds is something entirely different. Not to minimize the pain of physical trauma at all, that’s difficult enough as it is and can leave lasting traumatic, emotional wounds that go far deeper than the physical ones that can heal in time. When you’re talking about the deep, deep wounds of emotional trauma that leaves scars only you can see; you need more than the body’s ability to regenerate over time on its own.

alexis acker-halbur - podcast - beyond your past - healing unresolved trauma through mind-body-spirit.It requires a commitment the likes of which you may have never experienced before in your life. Unpacking those old wounds that you’ve tried so hard to bury in the bottom of your mind, for years, even decades, is not something to be taken lightly. However, the rewards that can come from reliving those memories, processing and learning from them, and forging your personal healing path, are truly life changing.

Healing unresolved trauma takes a combined effort of mind, body, and spirit; which is exactly the message my guest on the podcast today is sharing with the world.  Alexis Acker-Halbur is the founder and creator of the Never Give Up Institute, and the author of “Never Give Up: Break the Connection Between Stress and Illness” (available on Amazon).

Alex offers anyone who has suffered trauma or loss not just one way forward, but many. A survivor herself—of an astonishing number of traumas including, sexual, emotional and physical abuse, sexual exploitation by a therapist, rape, and cancer—she describes the connection between mind, body, and spirit and shows how the stress and anger she has experienced connect to her life-threatening illnesses.

I was in a hospital bed, diagnosed with stage 4 colon cancer, and fighting for my life—not once but twice. I suddenly saw the connection of how stress and trauma made me so sick. I knew at that moment I needed to survive and find ways to help me thrive.

I founded the Never Give Up Institute to help you understand how unresolved stress and trauma can cause illness, increase financial difficulty, and keep you from living a meaningful life.

As a survivor myself, and someone who works with trauma survivors, the message that Alex shares today on this episode of the podcast, and what she teaches in her book and online program, “T.R.U.T.H.“, is one that resonates so much with me. I’m so honored to share our conversation with you. During our chat, Alex and I cover the following topics:

  • Some of her story of being a survivor, which includes childhood sexual abuse, physical abuse, rape, sexual exploitation, failed relationships and more, in addition to dealing with colon cancer, breast cancer, and auto accident, type 1 diabetes, and other medical issues.
  • The experience of going for a colonoscopy and hours later finding herself being prepped for surgery for colon cancer. She tells of laying in the hospital and praying for answers and help.
    • Her prayers were answered in the form of being presented with a list of every trauma she’s ever faced, every disease or physical challenge, and the matching correlation to a past that involved a multitude of unresolved trauma.
    • What she did with this information, and how it took it happening twice for her true healing to finally take shape.
  • How the body copes with unresolved trauma.
  • Her T.R.U.T.H. program (The Road to Unresolved Trauma Healing)
  • The importance of the 3 pronged approach to healing, Mind, Body, and Spirit, and what this approach truly means.

As you’ll hear during our chat, I got chills more than once listening to Alex share her story and how her healing journey has unfolded and brought her to a place of launching her course, writing her book, and working trauma survivors. You don’t want to miss this one so be sure and check out the full podcast and also please consider sharing it with someone who could benefit it. You never know the difference it could make in someone’s life.

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Be sure and check out NeverGiveUpInstitute.org for more information about Alexis Acker-Halbur’s story, her programs, and her book “Never Give Up – Break the Connection Between Stress and Illness“.

-Matthew Pappas, CLC, MPNLP

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