Narcissistic Abuse

“Feel to Heal”, Finding Balance in Healing and Life through Integrative Wellness, with Delisa Richardson

‘Life is all about balance”, something most of us have probably heard many times growing up and even more so today. Trying to balance all of the responsibilities that daily life throws at us, professionally, personally, relationally, spiritually, is tough, to say the least. For those that do that have kind of balance now, you have my utmost respect, and hopefully, you’re going to write a book one day about how you do it.

For the rest of us, that balance can be elusive, something that we strive for and sometimes feel like we have a grasp of, while the rest of the time it’s all we can do to figure out 1 or 2 at time, let alone trying to put all 4 together in some type of cohesive union of peace.

Our guest today on the podcast, Delisa Richardson, has dedicated her life to finding the balance of living with chronic illness, recovery from being a survivor, being a mom and wife, and working with clients in her coaching business. As she outlines in her bio:

Delisa Richardson Wellness focuses on empowering women to break the chains of trauma and abuse. I work with you to develop Mental, Emotional, Physical and Spiritual balance & wholeness. This will enable you to thrive and live your BEST life! My goal as a certified Integrative Wellness & Life Coach, NLP, EFT practitioner, and Hypnotherapist, is to help break the chains of trauma, end destructive relationships, help you to learn to love yourself not only survive but THRIVE! You will learn how to fully and confidently step into your life purpose.

Delisa is also a fitness profession of 21 years, and living with chronic illness (inflammatory bowel disease), she specializes in helping those with chronic pain and diseases develop a plan of movement and exercise that works for them. 

During our chat, Delisa and I talk about some of her survivor story, which started around the 9 and lasted until she was 13. She shares how and why she kept her abuse a secret and how it affected her all throughout her teenage years and into early adulthood, especially in the area of relationships.

  • You’ll learn the circumstances that transpired which lead her to seek the help of a therapist, what it was like to verbalize for the first time, out loud, that she was a survivor of abuse.
  • Delisa talks about the struggles of being in abusive relationships, both physically and verbally, as a result of childhood trauma, and how the events of her past affected her ability to seek out healthy relationships and enforce boundaries.
  • We discuss the importance of releasing the shame and guilt that comes with being a survivor of childhood trauma, and how recording her own voice, by listening to how she talked to herself; internalizing all of the shame and blame, helped her move forward and break that cycle.
  • Her life with inflammatory bowel disease, and how living with chronic pain and illness can be traced back to the childhood trauma she experienced.
  • We discuss how healing from trauma is a life long battle and the hope that comes from putting in the hard work of healing so you can live the life you want and be the person you want to be.
  • Releasing yourself from the need to try and control the people around you or the events in your life, and how the process of healing helps you release that need and realize that you actually have very little control over most of your life.

You can find Delisa on Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter just search for “Delisa Richardson Wellness”

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Podcast – Ep. 94 – Recognizing & Understanding Toxic Relationships, and Narcissistic Abuse, with Kim Saeed.

So how do you recognize you are in an abusive relationship? For that matter, what is a toxic person, and how can you see the signs of an unhealthy relationship? Why do you keep justifying the behavior of our spouse or partner when they are treating you in a way that is not loving and encouraging?

Those questions alone can cause an incredible amount of unrest in your mind, and if you are currently in or were previously in a toxic relationship, you can likely relate . You know something is wrong, you know you don’t feel loved, understood, respected, and appreciated. At first everything was wonderful and then overtime, things began to change. You think it’s you, and wonder what you did wrong and how you can fix it. You justify his or her reactions and think that in time it will get better, but unfortunately so often that is not the case.

My guest on the podcast today, Kim Saeed, shares her expertise in the field of healing from toxic relationships and understanding narcissistic abuse.

Kim is an internationally respected self-help author and educator specializing in recovery and rebuilding after toxic relationships. She is the founder of, a life transformation site that teaches people to flourish after narcissistic abuse. She is the author of the Kindle bestseller, How to Do No Contact Like a Boss! and is currently writing an upcoming book, The Way of the Warrior, for Balboa Press, a division of Hay House.

I truly believe that devastating situations can be catalysts for transformation if we let them.  We don’t have to live lives of conformity or stay in abusive relationships.  We don’t have to be victims of generational dysfunction or do things the way our parents and grandparents did them.  We don’t have to hang onto dead dreams because we’ve been told we should.   All of us – including you – have the power of choice.

Her resources reach 9 million people and her YouTube channel is filled with incredible content about every aspect of understanding and healing from narcissistic abuse. If you don’t subscribe to her channel already, you’re missing out on so much important information, presented in a way that will fill you with an empowering mindset to take back control of your life and relationships.

Kim Saeed and I discuss the following topics during our chat on the podcast:

  • Some of her personal story and what inspired her to start advocating for narcissistic abuse awareness and recovery.
  • How to recognize you’re in an abusive relationship.
  • The most important things to remember for someone who has recently left a dysfunctional relationship.
  • How long-term narcissistic abuse can cause brain damage, and ways that we can begin to heal that damage.
  • Advice for those who are still in a toxic relationship, and what if it involves children and shared financial responsibilities.
  • The best way to go “no contact” with a toxic person.  Break it off slowly or cold turkey?

My chat with Kim was an amazing experience. I was already a big fan of her work and getting the opportunity to learn more from her was something that I know I benefited greatly from and I’m sure you will too. If you know someone who is currently struggling with any of the situations we talk about, please consider sharing this with them.

It’s never too late to start taking control of our life back, and protecting ourselves from further pain and damage at the hands of a narcissistic spouse, family member, friend, or boss.

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-Matt Pappas, CLC, MPNLP








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