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Living Your Best Life through Healing Your Past, with Karen Cesario Rizzo

When you come to a point in healing from your past, from all of the abuse, the trauma, the years of suffering, you may find yourself breaking down, falling to your knees, and crying out for help. That’s exactly what our guest on this episode of the podcast did, and the answers she received were life-changing.

Karen Cesario Rizzo is a spiritual coach and author: Having experienced tragedy and pain as a young child, I knew I felt different. But I always knew I was being protected by angels. I could hear them, feel them, speak to them and see them at an early age. After many years, I made the decision to lift the veil of pain and fear. It was a painful process I had to endure. As a result, I began experiencing increased psychic awareness beyond what I could comprehend. The journey has been amazing.

Admittedly, Joanne and I are not well versed into the world of being a clairvoyant and having psychic gifts, so this opportunity to chat with someone who has experienced this first hand and has found it to be a tremendous help in her own healing, was a wonderful opportunity.

During our chat with Karen, we talked about her unique survivor story and the journey of healing that lead her to be in a place of writing two books so far, and sharing her gifts and experiences with others through her coaching program:

  • How she endured sexual abuse at the age of 7, from her father who was also an alcoholic and later took his own life.
  • The breaking point that she came too that literally had her on her knees crying out for help and answers, and the life-changing results that came with that cry for help.
  • How she learned that she could talk to angels and the healing benefits she experienced as a result; as well as how she began to develop this gift.
  • The importance of peeling off each layer of pain, sitting with those feelings, and learning how to heal them through counseling and therapy.
    • What you learn about yourself throughout that process
  • Working through the shame, pain, and victimization that comes with being a survivor so you can learn to see yourself through the eyes of love.
  • How radical acceptance can play such an important role in healing from your past.

Be sure and follow Karen Cesario Rizzo on her website and on Twitter: @KCesarioRizzo  and Facebook: FlyingOnEaglesWings

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Healing from an Emotionally Abusive Relationship, with Liz Goddard

There’s an old saying, “sometimes you can’t see the forest through the trees”, An expression used of someone who is too involved in the details of a problem to look at the situation as a whole.* Now, what does this have to do is healing from an emotionally abusive relationship?

One of the biggest struggles that an emotionally abusive relationship brings, is that more often than not you don’t realize you’re in it until it’s over. No matter what others may see on the outside, we are too busy being emotionally invested, and subsequently having that used against us, to see what’s really going on. The red flags are there but we don’t acknowledge them. The toll on our minds and bodies is painfully evident, yet we choose to justify it or simply ignore it.

When the relationship does end, and you have the ability to see what really happened, it’s only then through that perspective that we see the true damage that was done and how much we were manipulated. The signs are all crystal clear now, those red flags stick out like a sore thumb, and wonder just how in the world we missed everything that was right in front of our faces.

elizabeth goddard - healing from an emotionally abusive relationship - beyond your past radioThen comes the self-shaming; beating ourselves up emotionally for all we put ourself through, and what we put others through. We doubt our ability to make good decisions on our own behalf and may end up reeling from those experiences for a long time, missing out so much in life because we can’t bear the thought of anything bad like that ever happening again.

So what can we do? How can we identify a relationship that is filled with emotional abuse? Is there a way to see it and get out before more damage is done and heal more compassionately and efficiently once it’s over? What can we do to help ourselves in the future, to enforce healthy boundaries and not let someone take over our very existence?

Liz Goddard returns on this episode of the podcast to dive deeper into healing from an emotionally abusive relationship. Elizabeth is an Author, Spiritual Life Coach, Soul Transformation Therapist, Soul Plan Reader, and Reiki Master Teacher; training with the Holistic Healing College in London. She works with women to help them understand why they attract abusive relationships and helps them heal the ORIGINAL wound. She believes that by healing the original wound you can feel whole, something you may never have experienced and allow you to take charge of your life.

Elizabeth has supported women who hadn’t realized they have been Emotionally Abused but had been stuck in their lives not able to move forward and believing everything was their fault. She believes we take on our behaviors and beliefs growing up, and that some of these aren’t actually our own they have been handed down with each generation.

During our chat, Liz shares about her upcoming new book, “The A to Z of Emotional Abuse”, and how the key to healing lies in understanding. In her new book, she takes the approach of education and learning about what emotional abuse is, in order to not only identify it but also to heal.

  • How cognitive dissonance and gaslighting can go hand in hand in an abusive relationship, and consequently literally damage our brain from the emotional trauma.
  • Understanding who exactly is to blame for the emotional abuse, and working through the urge to self-shame.
  • What role did you play in the relationship, and what you can you learn from it without interpreting the events in a way that causes you to take on all of the blame?
  • What is a manufactured soulmate and how can that mindset keep us stuck in the emotionally abusive relationship? For that matter, the importance of understanding that the toxic relationship itself is a manufactured relationship in the first place?
  • How to recognize if you are in an emotionally abusive relationship; the key to understanding what’s happening.
  • Idealization and Devaluation phases of a relationship, and how the toxic partner will use your ideals against you to manipulate you.

Learn more about Elizabeth Goddard, her ROAR program to Help Heal from Emotional Abuse, her Free Meditations available, her upcoming book, and more, over on her website ReviveYourSoul.co.uk

Be sure and also follow her on Twitter , Facebook and Instagram .

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*Source – https://www.dictionary.com/browse/can-t-see-the-forest-for-the-trees

 

From Victim to Survivor to Warrior, with Lisa Cybaniak – Ep. 136

Back when I first started on my own healing journey, I quickly became familiar with the term, “survivor”. Although I had never heard of it before (other than being a TV show), from the moment I heard what it was, it resonated with me big time. I felt like I had the biggest light bulb moment ever; I mean we’re talking like, the biggest light show ever suddenly coming to life in my head.

Everything made sense, I was a survivor. All of the struggles in school with learning disabilities, being bullied, problems with food, self-esteem, it all made sense. The more I learned, the more the puzzle pieces continued to find their way into this picture that was my life. Isn’t it interesting how, when you’re talking about being a survivor, you often reference puzzles and light bulbs?  Anyways…

Lisa Cybaniak Podcast - Beyond Your Past - From Victim to SurvivorOur guest on this episode of the podcast has dedicated her life to helping women in particular, and survivors as a whole, to find their voice. To begin to realize that they too have the ability to reach out for help, work through their past moving from victim to survivor, and ultimately from survivor to warrior.

Lisa Cybaniak is a Motivational Speaker, Success Coach, NLP Practitioner, and survivor of 10 years of child abuse. Over the last 3 years, her work has been featured on radio programs, podcasts, in magazines, and other media outlets. Her first book, Survivor to Warrior is due out in June of 2019.  She outlines on her website, I’ve developed three healing streams to empower you to build a life of purpose after abuse, wherever you may be on your path to recovery: Reaching Out, Victim to Survivor, and Survivor to Warrior.

If you’ve not had an abusive background, but still suffer from low self-esteem or confidence, impostor syndrome or a lack of fulfillment in your life, you will find many options here for you too. Remember, if you keep doing the same thing, you can expect the same result. If you’re ready for a different result, then you’re in the right place!

During our chat with Lisa, Joanne and I talk with her about her survivor journey and her work with clients:

  • Lisa shares about the multiple types of abuse she suffered at the hands of her stepfather, and how she found the courage to tell someone what was happening.
  • The incredible story of how her mother came to her rescue, validating everything Lisa said was happening and immediately made plans to get her away from the abuse.
  • The challenges of relationships and being able to tell her story to others; only a handful of people knew what happened during her teenage and young adult years.
  • We discuss the importance of not tying the validity of your abuse, and survivor story, to the outcome of a court case when filing charges against your abuser.
  • The struggles of using detachment as a coping skill, and how that lead to suicidal thoughts and closing off from nearly everyone in her life.
  • How she is using her life experiences now to work with clients, speak internationally, and continue her own ongoing journey of healing.

If you’d like to learn more about working with Lisa, her programs, upcoming new book, and her speaking engagements, just head over to LifeLikeYouMeanIt.com…and be sure and tell her, “Beyond Your Past, sent you”.  😉

You can follow her on Twitter: @LisaCybaniak , Facebook.com/lifelikeyoumeanit, and Instagram: @Life_Like_You_Mean_It

-Matthew Pappas, CLC, MPNLP & Joanne Cipressi, CHt, CNLP

 

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Introduction & Chat with new Podcast Co-host, Joanne Cipressi, Coach & Survivor – Ep. 119

Ever since I started this podcast, it’s been quite an interesting and exciting journey, to say the least. From the very first episode where I sat in front of my laptop, talking about being a survivor and the struggles of daily life, to now interviewing coaches, clinicians, and advocates every week; sharing their work and stories. I enjoy each and every episode and consider it a true honor to be a part of your day as you listen to the podcast.

Podcasting has allowed me to take the process of sharing my story to a new level, and as much as it’s hopefully helped you as you listen to the episodes, it’s helped me grow in my own journey even more.  I’m also very grateful to my friends and colleagues at Mental Health News Radio Network, for the opportunity to be among a group of incredible advocates who aren’t afraid to talk about the difficult subjects encompassing Mental Health.

Now, the next phase of the Beyond Your Past Podcast is about to begin, with the introduction of my new co-host, Joanne Cipressi.

Joanne is a Certified Coach and Survivor, experienced in a variety of modalities and skills which have helped her in her own journey as well as her coaching business working with clients, both in personal and business coaching.

You might remember when Joanne joined me on episode 107, where she shared some of her survivor story and the importance of rebuilding trust in yourself and others. Ever since then, we’ve stayed in touch; supporting each other’s work in social media and brainstorming some collaborative ideas, which lead to her now joining me on the podcast.

Joanne Cipressi brings new insight and a new dynamic to the show, which I hope you’ll find encouraging, validating, and yes even fun, too! Because hey, let’s face it, as I’ve said many times before, there’s no shame in interjecting some well-timed humor into difficult topics to help us cope with the challenges of being a survivor and living with mental health challenges as a result of our past.

Her experience in the areas of Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP), Hypnosis, Reflexology, Reiki, Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT), Age Regression Therapy, Holistic Nutrition, will surely bring new insight to the conversations we have on this show both as host and co-host, and with the amazing guests who join us each week.

Joanne will begin joining me on the podcasts starting in mid-late February, and you can expect to begin hearing her each week starting with those episodes being released in early March.

Learn more about Joanne, including her survivor story and her work as a coach, by heading over to JoanneCipressi.com and be sure to follow her on Twitter

-Matthew Pappas, CLC, MPNLP

 

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Rebuilding Trust in Yourself and Others, While Healing from Trauma, with Joanne Cipressi – Ep. 107

Rebuilding trust; once it’s broken it’s one of the most difficult things to heal. Trust is one of those things that can take quite a bit of bending before it actually breaks. We give others opportunity after opportunity to save it. We can endlessly justify what someone in our life did to us, and how they didn’t mean it, and how we shouldn’t be so selfish and quick to judge for any number of reasons.  We even blame ourselves for all the seemingly bad things we’ve done, and figure “who are we cut someone off just because…”.

Yes, rebuilding trust in others is very difficult, but healing the trust in ourselves can prove to be more problematic. We are our own worse critic, right?

How could we let this happen, what were we thinking, we should have seen this coming…the list goes on and on of the words we tell ourselves to justify the emotional beating we feel is necessary. Blaming ourselves is always easier than blaming someone else because we can control us…we can’t control others.

When your trust in a parent, sibling, or authority figure is broken when you’re a child, the road to healing is indeed rough but certainly not impossible. When that trust is broken again, as an adult survivor who is traumatized, everything comes rushing back to take it’s seemingly rightful place at the forefront of your very being. All that hard work you did to heal and all the progress you made can seem like a distant memory. You may very well be knocked down temporarily, knocked sideways, and stumble a bit but all that you’ve done is not undone…you have to get back up, dust yourself off, and keep going.

My guest on this episode of the podcast, Joanne Cipressi, has done just that many times in her life and now works with survivors to help them heal and rebuild that trust.

As she outlines on her website: I have been a life coach for about 20 years. Between my upbringing, personal experiences, and my educational training, I have put together formulas for helping people retrain the way they think, feel and act so that they can achieve their goals. I have worked with people on so many different issues, problems, and concerns over the past 20 years, that she truly understands what people need in so many areas of their life.

I have seen the transformative power that retraining the way you think and feel has. When you learn to make your mind and emotions work for you instead of against you, your life truly does transform. With deep care and love for people, I work from a place or understanding, compassion and intuitive guidance to move people to change.

Joanne is trained in Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP), Advanced Hypnosis, Age Regression Therapy, Timeline Therapy, Humanistic Neuro-Linguistic Psychology, Reiki-Master, and more.  Using her skills and training, along with her personal experience as a survivor of both childhood and adult sexual abuse, she is able to help her clients through some of their most difficult circumstances a, transforming the way they think and feel about themselves, and embrace the progress of achieving their goals.

During our chat, Joanne and I discuss:

  • Some of her survivor story, which includes sexual abuse by her stepfather when she was a child, as well as a sexual assault as an adult.
  • Rebuilding trust in yourself, and others. The challenges and rewards of doing so, and why it’s so important and affects many aspects of our life.
  • Overcoming thoughts of and a mindset of suicide after trauma.
  • How and why she decided at 19, to become a coach and help others. A very interesting story which includes a conversation between two strangers that gave her the motivation she needed to make changes in her life.
  • How Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) has helped her find breakthroughs in her own life and for her clients.

To learn more about Joanne Cipressi, including her upcoming book, and working with her, head over to JoanneCipressi.com  and be sure and follow her on Twitter @JoanneCipressi

Matthew Pappas, CLC, MPNLP

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Healing from Emotional Abuse, with Soul Transformation Therapy & Reiki, with Elizabeth Goddard – Ep. 105

Learning to break the cycle of abuse and heal past trauma can be a very spiritual experience for some survivors, and for those who have a desire to in touch with their spiritual side and using the energy of the universe to help in healing, working with a professional who specializes in Soul Transformation Therapy and Reiki can be an incredibly rewarding experience.

My guest on the podcast today is Liz Goddard. Liz reached out to me with an interest in coming on the podcast to talk more about her work in these areas and the benefits that working with a coach can have when a client is trying to heal deep wounds of the past by connecting with the energy around them.

Elizabeth is an Author, Spiritual Life Coach, Soul Transformation Therapist, Soul Plan Reader and Reiki Master Teacher; training with the Holistic Healing College in London. She work with women to help them understand why they attract abusive relationships and helps them heal the ORIGINAL wound. She believes that by healing the original wound you can feel whole, something you may never has experienced and allow you to take charge of your life.

Elizabeth has supported women who hadn’t realized they have been Emotionally Abused, but had been stuck in their lives not able to move forward and believing everything was their fault. She believes we take on our behaviours and beliefs growing up, and that some of these aren’t actually our own they have been handed down with each generation.

She herself has experienced both physical and emotional abuse in her life, but it was only when she was healing from a break-up that she discovered the cycle of abuse and although she had seen glimpses of similarities during the relationship, she was finally able to see the patterns in her life. During her healing journey, where she needed 
closure, and to understand what had happened, she discovered the answers. She had taken all the blame for the breakdown and was left confused and drained both physically and mentally; a shell of her former self.

Elizabeth gives her clients the information and understanding they need, helping them see their own patterns and profoundly heal from the experience.

During our chat on this episode of the podcast, Liz and I discuss:

  • Soul Transformation Therapy, what is it, how does it work, and what are the benefits?
  • The importance of discovering and healing the original wound at the root of trauma.
  • Her work as a Reiki Master Teacher, and learning more about what Reiki is.
  • Animal Reiki, and the profound healing that can come in our furry family members.
  • Why more men don’t reach out for help to experience this type of healing
  • The importance of not glossing over or overwriting red flags in all types of relationships.

Liz will be joining me again on the podcast in 2019 so we can dive deeper into her work in helping clients stop the cycle of abuse, recognize red flags in relationships, and learning from our past. In the mean time, I truly hope that you enjoy my chat with Liz Goddard on the podcast, and please consider sharing it with someone who might benefit from our chat…and don’t forget to subscribe!  🙂

Learn more about Elizabeth Goddard, her ROAR program in Helping to Heal from Emotional Abuse, her Free Meditations available, her Book “Finding Lily”, and more over on her website ReviveYourSoul.co.uk

Be sure and also follow her on Twitter , Facebook and Instagram 

Matthew Pappas, CLC, MPNLP

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All conversation and information exchanged during participation the Beyond Your Past Podcast, on BeyondYourPast.com, and BeyondYourPastRadio.com is intended for educational and informational purposes only. Nothing on these podcasts or posted on the above mentioned websites are supplements for or supersedes the relationship and direction of your medical or mental health providers.