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Healing from an Emotionally Abusive Relationship, with Liz Goddard

There’s an old saying, “sometimes you can’t see the forest through the trees”, An expression used of someone who is too involved in the details of a problem to look at the situation as a whole.* Now, what does this have to do is healing from an emotionally abusive relationship?

One of the biggest struggles that an emotionally abusive relationship brings, is that more often than not you don’t realize you’re in it until it’s over. No matter what others may see on the outside, we are too busy being emotionally invested, and subsequently having that used against us, to see what’s really going on. The red flags are there but we don’t acknowledge them. The toll on our minds and bodies is painfully evident, yet we choose to justify it or simply ignore it.

When the relationship does end, and you have the ability to see what really happened, it’s only then through that perspective that we see the true damage that was done and how much we were manipulated. The signs are all crystal clear now, those red flags stick out like a sore thumb, and wonder just how in the world we missed everything that was right in front of our faces.

elizabeth goddard - healing from an emotionally abusive relationship - beyond your past radioThen comes the self-shaming; beating ourselves up emotionally for all we put ourself through, and what we put others through. We doubt our ability to make good decisions on our own behalf and may end up reeling from those experiences for a long time, missing out so much in life because we can’t bear the thought of anything bad like that ever happening again.

So what can we do? How can we identify a relationship that is filled with emotional abuse? Is there a way to see it and get out before more damage is done and heal more compassionately and efficiently once it’s over? What can we do to help ourselves in the future, to enforce healthy boundaries and not let someone take over our very existence?

Liz Goddard returns on this episode of the podcast to dive deeper into healing from an emotionally abusive relationship. Elizabeth is an Author, Spiritual Life Coach, Soul Transformation Therapist, Soul Plan Reader, and Reiki Master Teacher; training with the Holistic Healing College in London. She works with women to help them understand why they attract abusive relationships and helps them heal the ORIGINAL wound. She believes that by healing the original wound you can feel whole, something you may never have experienced and allow you to take charge of your life.

Elizabeth has supported women who hadn’t realized they have been Emotionally Abused but had been stuck in their lives not able to move forward and believing everything was their fault. She believes we take on our behaviors and beliefs growing up, and that some of these aren’t actually our own they have been handed down with each generation.

During our chat, Liz shares about her upcoming new book, “The A to Z of Emotional Abuse”, and how the key to healing lies in understanding. In her new book, she takes the approach of education and learning about what emotional abuse is, in order to not only identify it but also to heal.

  • How cognitive dissonance and gaslighting can go hand in hand in an abusive relationship, and consequently literally damage our brain from the emotional trauma.
  • Understanding who exactly is to blame for the emotional abuse, and working through the urge to self-shame.
  • What role did you play in the relationship, and what you can you learn from it without interpreting the events in a way that causes you to take on all of the blame?
  • What is a manufactured soulmate and how can that mindset keep us stuck in the emotionally abusive relationship? For that matter, the importance of understanding that the toxic relationship itself is a manufactured relationship in the first place?
  • How to recognize if you are in an emotionally abusive relationship; the key to understanding what’s happening.
  • Idealization and Devaluation phases of a relationship, and how the toxic partner will use your ideals against you to manipulate you.

Learn more about Elizabeth Goddard, her ROAR program to Help Heal from Emotional Abuse, her Free Meditations available, her upcoming book, and more, over on her website ReviveYourSoul.co.uk

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*Source – https://www.dictionary.com/browse/can-t-see-the-forest-for-the-trees

 

Healing from Emotional Abuse, with Soul Transformation Therapy & Reiki, with Elizabeth Goddard – Ep. 105

Learning to break the cycle of abuse and heal past trauma can be a very spiritual experience for some survivors, and for those who have a desire to in touch with their spiritual side and using the energy of the universe to help in healing, working with a professional who specializes in Soul Transformation Therapy and Reiki can be an incredibly rewarding experience.

My guest on the podcast today is Liz Goddard. Liz reached out to me with an interest in coming on the podcast to talk more about her work in these areas and the benefits that working with a coach can have when a client is trying to heal deep wounds of the past by connecting with the energy around them.

Elizabeth is an Author, Spiritual Life Coach, Soul Transformation Therapist, Soul Plan Reader and Reiki Master Teacher; training with the Holistic Healing College in London. She work with women to help them understand why they attract abusive relationships and helps them heal the ORIGINAL wound. She believes that by healing the original wound you can feel whole, something you may never has experienced and allow you to take charge of your life.

Elizabeth has supported women who hadn’t realized they have been Emotionally Abused, but had been stuck in their lives not able to move forward and believing everything was their fault. She believes we take on our behaviours and beliefs growing up, and that some of these aren’t actually our own they have been handed down with each generation.

She herself has experienced both physical and emotional abuse in her life, but it was only when she was healing from a break-up that she discovered the cycle of abuse and although she had seen glimpses of similarities during the relationship, she was finally able to see the patterns in her life. During her healing journey, where she needed 
closure, and to understand what had happened, she discovered the answers. She had taken all the blame for the breakdown and was left confused and drained both physically and mentally; a shell of her former self.

Elizabeth gives her clients the information and understanding they need, helping them see their own patterns and profoundly heal from the experience.

During our chat on this episode of the podcast, Liz and I discuss:

  • Soul Transformation Therapy, what is it, how does it work, and what are the benefits?
  • The importance of discovering and healing the original wound at the root of trauma.
  • Her work as a Reiki Master Teacher, and learning more about what Reiki is.
  • Animal Reiki, and the profound healing that can come in our furry family members.
  • Why more men don’t reach out for help to experience this type of healing
  • The importance of not glossing over or overwriting red flags in all types of relationships.

Liz will be joining me again on the podcast in 2019 so we can dive deeper into her work in helping clients stop the cycle of abuse, recognize red flags in relationships, and learning from our past. In the mean time, I truly hope that you enjoy my chat with Liz Goddard on the podcast, and please consider sharing it with someone who might benefit from our chat…and don’t forget to subscribe!  🙂

Learn more about Elizabeth Goddard, her ROAR program in Helping to Heal from Emotional Abuse, her Free Meditations available, her Book “Finding Lily”, and more over on her website ReviveYourSoul.co.uk

Be sure and also follow her on Twitter , Facebook and Instagram 

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All conversation and information exchanged during participation the Beyond Your Past Podcast, on BeyondYourPast.com, and BeyondYourPastRadio.com is intended for educational and informational purposes only. Nothing on these podcasts or posted on the above mentioned websites are supplements for or supersedes the relationship and direction of your medical or mental health providers.