If there’s one thing you need to be able to latch on to, and believe in when you begin a healing journey from past trauma..is Hope. The hope in healing from CPTSD or PTSD caused by childhood trauma is real, but if we don’t believe it’s real, the healing becomes exponentially more difficult.
After all, the reason you start working with a trauma-informed coach or therapist is that you are tired of living life the way you’ve been for so long. Years, decades, pass by and that lingering feeling of just knowing something isn’t right and you’re sick and tired of feeling sick and tired finally causes you to come to a point where you say, enough is enough. You seek out the help of a professional because you want to make changes in your life, to feel better, to release the shame and guilt from the past, to make peace with yourself or others, and any number of other areas that have caused you to struggle.
Even with all of that realization and awareness, the thought of actually latching onto this idea of Hope can still be difficult. You’ve suffered for so long that it’s become your status quo and you feel like nothing is ever going to change; that hope is just a fleeting feeling, something you’ll never be able to believe in.
Trust me, I know..I was there, sitting in a therapists office for years saying all of those things and just barely hanging onto the hope that things will get better. As long as I had that little glimmer of hope, even if I didn’t fully believe it at times, I knew I had to keep going. Little by little, that hope grew and I began to see changes that made me realize the hard work was paying off.
That’s what healing from trauma is all about, putting in the hard work and believing that it will pay off because you are worth feeling better; you are worth the effort to break free from the chains of your past.
So what does that hope actually look like, what does it feel like? Well, I’m glad you asked because our guest on this episode of the podcast is Monique Koven, Trauma-Informed Recovery & Resilience Coach.
I have worked for over 25 years as a social worker where I worked with older adults, many of whom were Holocaust survivors. As a survivor of ongoing, repetitive childhood trauma, I know what it’s like to believe that things will never change. I was diagnosed with generalized anxiety disorder and chronic PTSD. I was always trying to find the right therapy to provide some relief and finally “fix” me. Over the years, I tried well over 15 therapeutic modalities, but nothing ever helped. I lived with chronic anxiety, fear, and distressing daily PTSD symptoms such as flashbacks, disassociation, and triggering. Waking up with feelings of dread at the thought of a new day and then living it in constant anxiety. Every. Single. Day. I was told that trauma and anxiety were going to be with me for the long haul and that I would have to learn coping strategies to manage my symptoms. I believed it. Until… everything changed.
I have found complete freedom and am living my life fully without anything holding me back. I drive wherever I want, I take risks and step into things I never dreamed possible, and I feel at ease in my own body and mind. No more waking up in dread at the thought of another day. And the best part was that I didn’t need any tools or techniques.
I can help you step back into your innate power and peace of mind. There is hope. Change is possible.
During our chat with Monique, we talk about:
- Monique shares some of her past and the struggles she felt growing up in an abusive home.
- How she managed to try and feel safe in an environment full of chaos and violence.
- As she grew up, the challenges of seemingly having a perfect life but feeling pulled back into her past.
- Is it actually possible to fully heal from CPTSD and PTSD; and if so, what does that look like?
- Finding balance during your healing and what it means to go to both ends of the spectrum during healing work.
- Why is it important to have someone witness and validate your story.
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